The thematic structure of male masochism: Male sexual inadequacy
The theme in male submissive sexual fantasies of the man’s sexual inadequacy, and his failure to satisfy women in bed as a consequence.
Women desire to mate with men who can sexually satisfy them. This is an important consideration in many women’s decisions to enter, stay in, and leave relationships with men. The burden that falls on men to perform adequately in bed influences their psychological view of themselves as desirable mates, and sexual skill is an oft-invoked criterion in the competition among men for mating with women. Those who fall short of women’s sexual expectations suffer the painful stigma of being perceived as sexually inadequate men. This perception of male sexual inadequacy is one of the themes of men’s masochism. This page groups the fantasies that incorporate this theme.
The central motif of these fantasies is the man’s perceived inadequacy as a sexual partner and his failure to satisfy women in bed as a consequence. The inadequacy that reigns supreme in men’s masochistic fantasies is having a penis too small for a woman’s taste, fantasies in which men’s common obsession with penis size becomes a source of erotic arousal. Nevertheless, other sexual disorders and inadequacies—like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and even sexual ineptitude—also form the substrate of some lesser known masochistic fantasies.
The theme of male sexual inadequacy often overlaps with the other themes of male masochism, producing complex fantasies that must be carefully analyzed to disentangle the constituent elements that lie at the heart of sexual arousal.
Coming soon:
Small penis humiliation fantasies.
Size queen fantasies.
Premature ejaculation fantasies.
Erectile dysfunction fantasies.
Sexual ineptitude fantasies.
and more.