The structure of male submissive sexual fantasies: Male servility

The category that deals with sexual fantasies of service, objectification, animalization, and enslavement, and how they intertwine with other kinks.

This is part of a series of essays that collectively survey male submissive kinks. Find the Table of contents here.

Some men have sexual fantasies that revolve around the central idea of making themselves servile to the women they desire. In these fantasies, servility is expressed in ways that exceed what is conventional in the course of sexual relations. This excessive servility can manifest in a panoply of different scenarios, and the woman’s attitude toward it can range from courteous to cruel.

In some situations, the man simply renders services to the woman, doing her favors without expecting anything in return. In others situations, the man is objectified and made to serve the function—either literal or metaphorical—of an inanimate object. In yet other situations, the man is reduced to the state of a pet or a useful animal. Finally, there are fantasies in which servility reaches its ultimate expression in the man’s enslavement by the woman.

Service

In some fantasies, men represent to themselves situations where they readily offer their help to a woman without expecting anything in return. Any task in which the woman might use a helping hand can become the object of a fantasy of this kind, from transportation to schoolwork, and especially those tasks that traditional gender roles assign to women, such as housekeeping. These three examples will serve here to illustrate fantasies of service.

Domestic service

Some men fantasize about doing domestic work for a woman they desire. They imagine themselves cleaning her place, scrubbing the floors, and doing the dishes. They find satisfaction in knowing that the woman they desire is relieved from the burden of having to do these chores. Discharged from this duty, she can simply relax and enjoy her life while her loyal domestic servant sees to it that such tiring and manual work is done.

Fantasies of domestic service can develop in different directions if they incorporate other kinks as well. For example, the man’s denial of sexual access to the woman can be stressed in that he does house services for her but she does not reciprocate with anything on her part.

Homework

Another area where a man can offer his help is homework. In this fantasy, the woman is imagined to be too beautiful to deserve doing tedious school assignments. The man thinks it a tragedy that the woman should have to sit and contend with the unpleasantries of homework instead of enjoying her life like every beautiful woman deserves. The man rushes to save the damsel by offering to do her assignments for her.

Such fantasies of doing homework can also arise in connection with kinks of manipulation in scenarios where the man and the woman are classmates assigned schoolwork. The woman finds a way to trick the man into doing her part of the assignment, either by inducing him to volunteer himself in offering this service or by explicitly blackmailing him under some pretense.

Driving

The man can also make himself useful to the woman in fantasies where he becomes her driver. He picks her up at designated times when she needs a ride and takes her to her destination. Needless to say, the service is rendered free of charge. These scenarios can be more arousing if the man is made to expend tremendous effort to drive the woman around. This can happen if he is made to drive long distances just to please her or if she calls him up at unexpected times asking him to immediately report for his driving duties.

All fantasies of service can intertwine with the cuckolding kink if the man imagines the woman going out on a date with a lover while he stays at home and takes care of domestic work, or does the woman’s homework, or drives her to the date and back from it.

Objectification

Another way the man can make himself useful to the woman is by serving the function of inanimate objects she uses. These are the fantasies where the man is objectified. He imagines himself becoming the inanimate object, either literally or metaphorically, possibly for an extended period of time. He imagines himself having to endure the tribulation of being used in this way but he feels blissful in the utility he generates for the woman.

As an inanimate object, the man cannot express any pain, however hard the task becomes. He simply has to suffer his fate and stay in the position he is made to occupy. Because of this, some fantasies of objectification also feature aspects of physical restraint to deprive the man from freedom of movement or to keep his mouth shut.

Some of these objectification fantasies are about becoming human furniture like a chair, a footrest, or a carpet. Others are more about a metaphorical objectification, such as becoming a wallet, an ashtray, a toilet, a washing machine, or even a sex toy. These examples will serve to illustrate fantasies of objectification.

Chair

One of the objects a man can see himself becoming is a chair for the woman to sit on. To this end, he has to get on his hands and knees on the ground so that the woman can sit on his back. He stays in this position as long as the woman wishes to sit, and he carries most of her weight in agonizing silence.

Footrest

Another function the man can serve is that of a footrest or a footstool. He can assume a variety of positions to this end. He can be on his hands and knees while the woman puts her feet on his back, or he can lie on the ground face up. In this latter position, the woman can place her feet on his crotch, on his chest, or on his face.

Fantasies of being used as a footrest can incorporate the kinks of worship and soiling. In the former, for example, the man can be made to worship the woman’s feet while she places them on his face. In the latter, the man can be made to clean the feet with his mouth.

Carpet

For men who have fantasies of being trampled upon, they can imagine themselves becoming a carpet or a rug upon which the woman walks. As a human carpet, the man endures the full weight of the woman on his flat body as he is trampled under foot.

Wallet

In the fantasies of financial domination, the man can be objectified by the woman as a wallet or a human ATM (automated teller machine). In this function, he has to give her money as effortlessly as if she were to reach for it in her wallet or to withdraw it from a machine.

Ashtray

Some men fantasize about being used as ashtrays for a woman who smokes cigarettes. In these fantasies, the ashtray is typically more specifically located in the man’s mouth, although other parts of his body can also be used to put out cigarettes, like the chest or the face.

The man typically imagines himself by the woman’s side, ready to open his mouth whenever she demands it. The woman can tap off ash from her cigarette directly onto the man’s mouth and he is expected to swallow the ash. She can also put the cigarette out on his tongue, a pain he imagines himself having to endure in his role as a human ashtray. When a man fantasizes about being used in this way by a woman, he can also enjoy her blowing smoke onto his face, forcing him to inhale it.

Toilet

For those men who also fantasize about women’s bodily excretions, their fantasies can include objectification into a toilet. The man who becomes a toilet imagines the woman sitting on his face and urinating or defecating directly into his mouth. He then has to ingest these excretions, emulating the flushing function of a toilet. Another similar fantasy is being used as toilet paper.

Washing machine

In some fantasies, the woman makes the man clean her dirty clothes by stuffing them in his mouth and making him attempt to thoroughly wash stains away with his tongue and saliva, duly swallowing all the dirt from it in the process. In these fantasies, the man serves the function of a washing machine.

Sex toy

Some men fantasize about being reduced to a sex object, in this case becoming a sex toy for the woman to use while she masturbates. For example, the woman can objectify the man by calling him a human dildo. She engages in sexual intercourse with him but makes it clear that she is only using his penis like she would use a dildo, and that she otherwise does not care about him. As soon as the human-dildo fulfills his purpose of making the woman orgasm, he is discarded, and she does not pay him any attention or care about his sexual pleasure.

Animalization

Another way a man can prove himself useful to a woman is by emulating the role of an animal as a pet or a beast of burden. Two animals stand out in this type of sexual fantasies: the dog and the equine. The man who has fantasies of animalization is aroused at imagining himself fulfilling the duties of an animal in service to the woman.

This animalization can be experienced in different ways. To some men, it is imagined to be a mere humiliation to be reluctantly suffered for the pleasure of the woman. To others, it is experienced as a process of metamorphosis in which the man sees himself losing his identity as a human being and literally becoming his animal of choice.

Dog

Some fantasies of animalization debase the man to the state of a dog. In imagining himself in such a state, the man can fantasize about emulating canine behavior. He sees himself becoming the woman’s pet, and as such, he expects to be told what to do and to be trained in the same manner that the woman would interact with a pet dog. The man who fantasizes about being the woman’s dog feels a complete devotion to her, emulating a dog’s loyalty to its owner.

The man can see himself getting on all fours in front of the woman and crawling about her in this position. He can imagine himself having to bark at her command and to stick his tongue out and pant in a state of excitement. He has to sit when he is told and to get up on his knees with his hands curved when he is instructed, emulating in this latter case the position of a dog on its hind legs.

The man can be made to fetch, running on all fours and grabbing objects with his mouth to retrieve them for the woman. He can be collared as a symbolic act of ownership as a pet, and he can be put on a leash and paraded just like the woman would walk a dog. A butt plug with a fake tail can be inserted into the man’s anus, further degrading his masculinity. The fantasies of some men even go to the length of wearing complete dog costumes.

The more intense the fantasies, the more the man imagines himself completely becoming a dog. He can fantasize about eating and drinking from a bowl provided by the woman. In his nutrition, it is even more humiliating when he is made to eat dog food. When he drinks from the bowl, he does so in the manner of a dog, using only his tongue to pick up the fluid.

More overt sexual behavior can be emulated if the man is instructed to hump the woman’s legs or to lick various parts of her body while panting or barking, body parts like the feet or the belly or the legs. In some fantasies, the woman instructs the man to lick his semen after he ejaculates, either from the ground or from the bowl he eats from.

In these fantasies, the woman treats the man completely as her pet. She can call him all the names she would a real dog, most notably “puppy”. She can also train the man to be a good dog by giving him various tasks to accomplish. When he does well in a task, she calls him a good boy and rewards him. When he does bad, she punishes him.

Equine

The other prominent animal featured in fantasies of animalization is the equine. In these fantasies, the man imagines himself debased to the state of the horse or the pony. The main utility of the equine to the woman is transportation. Thus, these fantasies are all about riding on a man’s back like a horse or a pony.

The man who has these fantasies sees himself getting on all fours and carrying the full weight of the woman who rides on his back, having to transport her around for as long as she wishes, galloping and neighing in his function of beast of burden. The heavier the woman, the more burdensome the task, but the man-equine has to endure it stoically to render the transportation service to his rider.

As part of these fantasies, the man can imagine himself becoming a domesticated horse and being fitted with all the equipment and accessories that are put on these animals. This includes the saddle that is placed on the back of the horse, providing a seat for the rider, and the bit, bridle, and reins that are fitted on the horse’s head and mouth to give control of the animal to the rider.

In some fantasies, the equipment that provides an equivalent function of control is imagined to be fitted on the man’s genitalia rather than his head. In this case, he imagines himself being steered and being given cues through the pain that the woman administers to his testicles through such equipment.

While mounted on the man’s back, the woman can use a riding crop to whip him as part of horse training or merely because she derives satisfaction from inflicting pain on him. She can also use her feet for the same purpose, kicking his sides and thighs while riding on his back.

Enslavement

One way in which the man’s servility to the woman can be expressed is through the relationship of the slave to the master—or in this case, the mistress. This encompasses all the fantasies of the man’s enslavement by the woman or his induction into her servitude.¹ Here, I use the words slavery and servitude interchangeably with no additional connotations.

In some fantasies, the enslavement is voluntary, enshrined in the important document of the slavery contract. In other fantasies, the enslavement is imagined to be forced upon the man against his will, and he reluctantly resigns himself to his new condition of servitude.

Slavery contract

When the man becomes a slave to his mistress, he surrenders his liberty and become her property. In some of these fantasies, he imagines the new relationship is cemented with a formal contract that both parties sign. The contract is a document that stipulates the terms of the man’s subjugation to the mistress, his obligations toward her, the boundaries that she has to respect if he specifies any, and the duration of the period of enslavement if it is only temporary.

The slave contract is imagined to be legally binding. The thought of being prevented by force of law from exiting the agreement makes the experience all the more arousing for the slave. The moment of signing the contract holds a special significance in his erotic imagination as it marks the end of his life as a free man and the beginning of his condition of slavery.

The slave contract, typically held in the mistress’s possession, serves to remind the man of what he voluntarily agreed to should he ever have second thoughts or fail to live up to his obligations as a slave. These obligations can vary depending on the specific activities that the man finds arousing.

Slave duties

The slave’s duties and obligations can find expression in any of the aforementioned service activities, in which the man provides a service to the woman, and in any of the objectification or animalization functions outlined above. Here, a few examples will serve to illustrate the most prominent roles given the slave in these fantasies. They are the domestic slave, the oral slave, and the foot slave. It should not be forgotten, however, that many other activities can be cast as slave roles, like the money slave, the toilet slave, etc.

Domestic slave

The domestic slave is to provide housekeeping services for the mistress, doing the household chores, cooking food, and keeping her home clean. He is to stand at attention like a footman, ready to be called by the mistress whenever he is needed. He is to bring her food and drinks and look after her needs. He is to act and address her like a servile butler, lowering his gaze and bowing to her as a show of respect.

If the man also fantasizes about corporal punishment, he can imagine himself, as the domestic slave, being punished by the mistress for committing a faux-pas in the course of his domestic duties. He takes the punishment as he believes he deserves it for his indiscretion. If the man also fantasizes about feminization, then the incorporation of that kink can give rise to scenarios where he is dressed in a maid’s outfit while he performs the housekeeping duties.

Oral slave

Another role the slave can play is to provide sexual pleasure to the woman whenever she demands it by the use of his tongue in cunnilingus. The oral slave, as he is called, is to be ready at the woman’s beck and call to give her oral sex and bring her to orgasm, all in the abnegation of his own sexual satisfaction.

Oral servitude can play out in various positions. For example, the woman can seat herself in a chair for her slave to kneel in front of her or she can directly sit on his face in a more dominating position while he lies down on his back. The oral slave can be humiliated by being made to perform oral sex on the woman after she has sex with another man, in which case these fantasies can incorporate kinks of cuckolding, soiling, and corruption of sexuality.

Foot slave

Another prominent role the slave can play is to service his mistress’s feet. The foot slave is to make himself available whenever her feet require attention. For example, in some fantasies, the foot slave stands ready for when the mistress comes back home from a long day of walking. He takes off her shoes and gets to work on her feet, thoroughly cleaning them with his mouth. The foot slave can also provide foot massages and various other services that specifically target the mistress’s feet.

Ownership

In fantasies of enslavement, the mistress owns the slave as her property. There are a few different ways in which this ownership can be symbolized. For example, the slave can wear a collar or a bracelet that represents his ownership by the mistress, he can write certain language with a permanent marker on his body, language that unequivocally reflects his condition as a slave, and, in more extreme fantasies, he can have a permanent tattoo that represents his ownership or even be branded on his body with an iron with such a symbol.

Slave training

An important aspect of fantasies of enslavement is the training of the slave by the mistress. This training can involve tasks to be completed with rewards and punishments dealt in accordance with the slave’s performance. The aim of the training is to make the slave more servile and to make him be more accepting of his condition of servitude. In these aspects, fantasies of enslavement can incorporate many other kinks.

For example, as part of the slave’s training, he can be feminized and forced to dress and act like a woman, his sexual orientation can be corrupted by forcing him to engage in sexual activities with men, his penis can be locked in a chastity cage to take away his sexual autonomy and pleasure, he can be made to soil himself with the woman’s bodily secretions and excretions and with dirt, he can be exposed to hypnosis and other schemes of mental manipulation, and he can be made to endure pain from activities of physical domination and be dealt sentences of corporal punishment.

Whatever the slave training consists of, he is to carry it out stoically without raising any objections to the mistress’s plan. His completion of the training reinforces his conditioning into the role of the slave, and he finds satisfaction in pleasing his mistress and keeping her happy with his performance.

Confinement

Some men fantasize about their physical confinement in their condition of slave to the mistress. This confinement can be imagined in very elaborate ways. Some men fantasize about being kept in dungeons or being chained to walls. Others fantasize about being kept in a cage as the property of the woman. In this case, the cage is typically imagined to be small, so small in fact that the man has to sit or to crawl to fit inside.

The slave is to stay in his cage in the vicinity of the mistress and even in her absence. He is only let out when she decides, and only temporarily. Once the mistress is done with him, she puts him back in his cage and locks it. These moments of being granted provisional liberty and having it taken away again are significant in the erotic imagination of the men who have these fantasies of confinement.

In his cage, the slave can observe the mistress as she carries on her activities of daily life. Notable among these is her sexual encounters with other men, activities which the slave can be made to watch from the discomfort of his cage. In this latter case, fantasies of confinement incorporate elements of cuckolding.

As part of being kept prisoner in his cage, the slave can imagine himself reduced to the bare necessities of survival. Since his nutrition iscompletely determined by the mistress, she can decide to starve him or to feed him humiliating things.

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The line art in this essay’s card is by Georgian artist Dorian Chelios.

1. This slavery should not be understood in racial terms but solely in terms of the power dynamic. There are, however, men who incorporate elements of race in their fantasies of enslavement.