A survey of male submissive kinks: #9 Soiling of the man
The category that deals with sexual fantasies of spit swallowing, sweat smelling, panty sniffing, urine drinking, dirty feet and shoe cleaning, etc., and how they intertwine with other kinks.
This is part of a series of essays that collectively survey male submissive kinks. Find the Table of contents here.
Humans have a natural aversion to filth that is most likely an evolved mechanism that confers the advantage of avoiding pathogens that cause diseases. This aversion is particularly salient in the psychology of mating where humans are naturally repulsed by people with poor hygiene as it is a signal that they might be carrying diseases that can be transmitted.
As women are the sexual selectors, the hygiene of men is of especial importance to them in mate selection. If a woman goes out on a first date and gets the hint of a bad breath from the man’s mouth or smells some sweat coming from his body, it can almost be guaranteed that the man will not get a second date. The same holds true for all other aspects of personal hygiene.
Therefore, if a man is to pursue a successful reproductive strategy, he needs to ensure he avoids any and all things that can signal to a woman that he is dirty or filthy. Some men, however, have sexual fantasies of being soiled and dirtied and being forced to come into contact with filth. The woman’s bodily secretions, her excretions, and external dirt are the major substances that men fantasize about being soiled with.
As with all submissive sexual fantasies, there is a difference between fantasy and reality. The submissive man who fantasizes about being soiled with the woman’s secretions or excretions or with dirt will not necessarily enjoy the actual experience of being soiled with these substances. In these fantasies in particular, it should be remembered that what can excite the man in the imagination does not necessarily translate to an enjoyable experience if it is realized.
Due to the nature of this category of kinks, the reader’s discretion is advised. Lest the reader be turned away in disgust, I give the more repulsive matters only cursory treatment in this essay, only enough to give a general idea of the content of the fantasies.
Bodily secretions
Some men fantasize about coming into contact with any of the different bodily secretions of an attractive woman. The acts involved in smelling and ingesting these secretions vary in the degree of humiliation involved. In some fantasies, these acts are performed on the woman out of the man’s own volition. In others, he is forced by the woman to perform them.
Vagina
On the mild end of the spectrum, some men fantasize about ingesting the vaginal secretions of a woman they are sexually active with. In the act of cunnilingus, for example, a man can be aroused by the idea of licking the woman’s secretions and swallowing them, effectively cleaning up her genitalia with his tongue. If the woman squirts, the man can fantasize about drinking the expulsed liquid. The key element in these fantasies is the yearning to ingest the woman’s vaginal secretions or squirt, a yearning of a submissive nature.
Saliva
Some men fantasize about swallowing the spit of a woman they desire. In these fantasies, the attractive woman is often seen as unattainable to the man, out of his league. Thus, the man who fantasizes about drinking the woman’s spit considers himself lucky to get whatever he can out of the woman, even if it be her saliva. This theme applies to many of the bodily secretions treated here.
In some scenarios of swallowing spit, the woman spits directly into the man’s mouth as he subjects himself to her and presents her with his mouth wide open. In other fantasies, the man drinks the spit from a cup in which the woman previously spat. In yet other fantasies, the woman spits in the man’s food or drink before he has it, and he is thus made to ingest her saliva while dining.
Some fantasies are about the humiliating act of being spat on by an attractive woman. The submissive man can fantasize about presenting himself to a domineering woman and staying immobile in front of her as she proceeds to spit on his face and on his body. This is often accompanied by verbal humiliation on the part of the woman. She can also make the man verbally humiliate himself if, for example, she makes him thank her for spitting on him.
Sweat
Some men fantasize about smelling and licking the sweat of an attractive woman. The dirty smell of sweaty armpits or stinky feet can excite the man as he imagines his humiliation at only getting to experience the repulsive smell of the woman’s sweat rather than having a romantic or sexual relationship with her. For example, a popular fantasy revolves around the athletic woman who comes back home from the gym covered in sweat, ready to be sniffed and licked by the submissive man.
The man can fantasize about having his head shoved into the woman’s armpit and having his nose trapped in it. In such a position, he has no choice but to inhale the axillary scent. The man can also fantasize about having the woman’s feet rubbed all over his face or shoved into his mouth where he is made to take in any smell that emanates from them. These activities can be accompanied by verbal humiliation on the part of the woman as the man proceeds to smell her scent and lick the sweat on her body.
In the erotic imagination of the men who have these fantasies, the character of the woman’s secretions, like her spit or her sweat, can lose its repulsive nature and come to be thought of positively as a gift from the woman to the man, an opportunity for him to experience the unattainable woman through her substances.
Some men specifically fantasize about smelling and licking hairy body parts of the woman, like her armpits, genitalia, and anus. The assumption in these fantasies is that the hair adds to the unsanitary condition of those parts, thereby intensifying the soiling character of the fantasies.
Clothes
Some men fantasize about coming into contact with an attractive woman’s clothes, from which they derive great sexual pleasure. In these fantasies, the act of procuring a woman’s piece of clothing serves, in the man’s erotic imagination, as a substitute for a proper relationship with her as she is deemed unattainable to him. When soiling kinks are involved, the man can fantasize about the woman’s worn undergarments, her used socks, or clothes that she sweated in.
Some men fantasize about stealing these items of clothing from the woman or otherwise using them clandestinely without her knowledge. This happens for example in fantasies where the man shares an apartment with an attractive woman and, unbeknownst to her, goes through her dirty laundry. Other men fantasize about procuring the woman’s articles of clothing by directly buying them from her.
The man can fantasize about sniffing underwear that the woman has worn for any odor that possibly persists in them, licking the residue of any substances that the woman might have secreted into the fabric, rubbing the garment all over his face for a comprehensive experience of it, putting it in his mouth or gagging himself with it, and rubbing it on his penis while masturbating.
Some men specifically fantasize about underwear that the woman has masturbated in and which contains the fresh mark of her vaginal secretions, ready to be cleaned by the man with the use of his tongue.
The man can also fantasize about the woman’s socks that she has worn long enough for them to be dirty and smelly with bacteria and sweat. These fantasies often involve forcing the man to sniff the socks as the woman is wearing them and then shoving them into his mouth when she takes them off. The man can fantasize about being gagged with the dirty socks as the woman further rubs her feet all over his face.
Other fantasies involve articles of clothing soiled with the woman’s sweat, like athletic garb that the woman exercised in, which the man sniffs for the chance of inhaling the remnants of her scent. In some extreme fantasies, the woman can wring out the sweat from the garments into a cup from which the man then drinks. The woman can also soak the sweaty garments into water before wringing them out. The sweaty garments in these fantasies are often socks or pantyhose.
Bodily excretions
Other fantasies revolve around the smelling and ingestion of the woman’s bodily excretions, including burps, flatulence, urine, and excrements.1 Some fantasies involve other excretions, like menstrual blood or vomit, but they will not be mentioned here.
Burps
Some men fantasize about an attractive woman’s burps. They derive sexual pleasure from listening to the woman talk about having drinks that elicit belching and watching her have those drinks in anticipation of it.
Urine
Some men fantasize about coming into contact with the woman’s urine. These fantasies can involve urinating on the man’s body, an act called a “golden shower”, or directly urinating into the man’s mouth as he holds it open.
Anus
Some men fantasize about performing acts on the woman’s anus. Since this part of the human body is considered dirty due to its being the orifice for excrements, the man who fantasizes about these acts is motivated by soiling kinks.
Some men are aroused by the idea of sniffing a woman’s anus and inhaling the smell that emanates from it. The woman can forcibly sit on the man’s face and trap his nose between her buttocks to compel him to take in the smell.
Some men also fantasize about licking the woman’s anus and cleaning it with their tongues. In some of these fantasies, the anus is imagined to be clean. In others, however, the anus is imagined to be explicitly soiled with excrements that the man has to clean.
Flatulence
Some men fantasize about smelling the woman’s flatulence. As with burps, these men are aroused by the anticipation of the event. For example, the woman can talk about how gassy she is because of the food she ate or she can describe how particularly foul she expects the smell of her flatulence will be. This arouses the man who has these fantasies as he anticipates inhaling the woman’s gas after she passes it.
Excrements
Other fantasies involve the smelling and ingestion of the woman’s excrements or the soiling of the man’s body with them. Men who fantasize about this also derive pleasure from the anticipation of the act, such as when the woman talks about how particularly bad she suspects her excrements will be because of the food she ate.
Dirt
Other than the woman’s bodily secretions and excretions, the rest of the soiling fantasies revolve around coming into contact with external dirt. A few prominent examples follow to illustrate but this is not an exhaustive treatment.
Feet
A prominent fantasy involving dirt is the cleaning of the woman’s feet with the submissive man’s mouth. Some men fantasize about licking a woman’s clean feet, in which case the soiling is only implied as the feet are commonly considered to be a dirty part of the human body.
Other men, however, fantasize about the woman’s feet covered in dirt or mud or other types of filth. These fantasies involve using the man’s tongue to thoroughly lick up all the dirt on her feet and ingesting it as part of the cleaning process.
Footwear
Some men fantasize about licking the woman’s shoes or boots instead of her feet. The act of cleaning proceeds in the same fashion, with the submissive man using his tongue to thoroughly lick all the dirt from the footwear. The act of cleaning is especially humiliating when it is performed on the soles of the shoes as they are the part that comes into contact with the ground, making them the part that accumulates the most dirt.
Fantasies that involve the woman’s shoes can also be about their smell. Some men fantasize about sneakily getting their hands on footwear to smell it in secret. Other fantasies involve coercion where the man is forced to inhale the smell of the woman’s shoes. The woman can, for example, shove the shoe’s opening in the man’s face, trapping his nose in it and compelling him to take in the foul smell. This is especially humiliating if the shoe was worn for a long time or if the woman exercised in it as this can mean a stronger smell for the man to inhale.
Food and drinks
Some men fantasize about being made to eat food or have drinks that have been soiled in some way. The example of the woman’s spit in food or drinks has already been mentioned. The woman can also chew food and spit it into the man’s mouth or on his body, covering him with it. The woman can throw the food on the floor and have the man eat it after it has been dirtied with the floor’s germs. She can also step in it and soil it with her feet or her shoes before the man eats it. In this case, the man can be made to eat it directly from the woman’s foot or shoe, cleaning it in the process. Another fantasy involves making the man ejaculate into his own food or drink before having it.
Cigarette ash
Some men fantasize about ingesting the ashes of the woman’s cigarette while she smokes. In these fantasies, the woman uses the man’s mouth as an ashtray and the man duly swallows all the ashes he receives, suffering the potential burning sensations of his tongue in the process. The woman can also use the man’s mouth to put the cigarette out.
Toilet
Some men fantasize about being made to lick a woman’s toilet seat or to drink its water. The woman can force the man’s head into the toilet and hold it there to make him ingest the dirty water. The toilet can be flushed while the man’s head is held there.
Mud
Some men fantasize about having their bodies soiled with mud. The woman can make the man lie down in muddy places and soil his body with the substances. She can also make him stand still while she throws mud on him to humiliate him. In these fantasies, the man is often stripped naked beforehand to intensify the experience of being soiled. He can also be made to roll over in the mud, to rub himself with it, and even to rub his penis in it and use it to masturbate.
Other kinks
Sexual fantasies of the man’s soiling strongly intertwine with many kinks from other categories. A few examples are mentioned here.
Soiling fantasies can intertwine with aspects of rejection if the man imagines himself unworthy of having a proper romantic or sexual relationship with the woman he desires, resigning himself instead to the humiliating fate of having to come into contact with her bodily secretions or excretions as the only way to experience her.
In cuckolding scenarios, the man can be made to clean the woman’s vagina with his tongue after she has sexual intercourse with another man. He can also be made to receive saliva mixed with ejaculate if he lies down beneath the woman while she performs oral sex on the other man.
Soiling fantasies can intertwine with feminization kinks, in which case the man can fantasize about soiling himself with his own semen by ejaculating on his face and on his body or ingesting his semen in a variety of ways. When the homosexuality kink is also at play, the man, imagining himself in the role of a heterosexual woman, can fantasize about being soiled by other men in the manner of a promiscuous woman who easily offers up sexual access to her body, receiving men’s ejaculate on her face and in her holes.
Some soiling fantasies involve elements of blackmail, such as when the man is caught by the woman in the midst of inappropriate acts. For example, the man can be caught sniffing the woman’s underwear or socks or stealing these garments from her dirty laundry. After catching him in the act, the woman can proceed to blackmail him in exchange for her silence on the embarrassing matter.
Soiling fantasies can intertwine with kinks of worship and servitude, especially in the case where the man is made to clean certain parts of the woman’s body like her feet or her anus. For example, some fantasies revolve around the man’s role as a foot slave, waiting patiently for his mistress to come home after a long day of walking to clean her feet with his mouth.
The sexual interest in ingesting a woman’s urine or excrements can manifest in a toilet slavery setting, where the man is made to occupy the place of a toilet seat for the woman to relieve herself into his mouth. Some fantasies revolve around forcing the man to perform the functions of a toilet where he can be immobilized and compelled to take the woman’s excretions into his mouth. In such a case, the man can imagine himself fitted with a toilet seat around his head to facilitate the process and to further humiliate him.
When soiling fantasies intertwine with the kink of giant women and tiny men, new scenarios become possible as the tiny man can be soiled in a variety of creative ways due to the enormous size difference. For example, the tiny man can be shoved into the woman’s vagina and be completely drenched in her vaginal secretions; he can be shoved into her anus to be used as a butt plug; and he can have his whole body used as toilet paper by the giantess.
Finally, soiling fantasies can intertwine with aspects of corporal punishments as all the acts involved—for example, being forced to sniff the woman’s armpit or her shoes or to be spat on or dirtied with mud—can serve as punishments for whichever transgressions the man is deemed to have committed in the fantasies.
Online sales
Many pornographic actresses that cater to male submissive sexual fantasies sell their articles of clothing online to the men who wish to buy them. The standard items sold include worn underwear and worn socks, but some men request stranger things from the women.
For the right price, some women readily sell curiosities like their clipped finger and toe nails, samples from their bathwater, scraped dead skin from their feet in the form of so-called foot dust, dirty old shoes, alleged bottled flatulence, and even urine and excrements in the more extreme cases. The women discreetly package and ship these items and make a handsome profit in the enterprise. In most cases, the men who seek to acquire these items are motivated by the soiling fantasies surveyed here.
Funnily enough, the business of buying women’s used clothes for erotic purposes is not limited to the women who explicitly sell them for those purposes. Indeed, many unsuspecting women who innocently sell their used garments on popular online platforms (like Facebook Marketplace) get contacted by men who wish to acquire them.
These men appear creepy to the women because of the suspicion that they want to use the clothes for purposes of sexual gratification. These men can have different motivations. Some of them are cross-dresses who are aroused by wearing women’s clothes. Others are motivated by the aforementioned sexual fantasies of smelling the woman’s garments, sniffing them, licking them, etc.
This concludes a survey of the kinks involved in the category of the soiling of the man. If you think something is missing from this overview, leave a comment and share your thoughts. You can also message me on Substack or on Reddit if you wish to remain anonymous and discuss privately.
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The line art in this essay’s card is by Georgian artist Dorian Chelios.
In the literature, the sexual interest in urine is called urolagnia; that in excrements is called coprolagnia or, more recently, coprophilia.