The thematic structure of male masochism: Denial of sexual access
The theme in male submissive sexual fantasies of the man’s failure to obtain sexual access to a desired woman, and the frustration of his sexual strategy as a consequence.
Men desire to have sex with women they find attractive. Since women are the sexual selectors of the species, their approval is required for any consensual sexual encounter to take place. More often than not, men’s lust for women is denied. This denial of access to a woman’s sexuality is one of the themes of men’s masochism. This page groups the fantasies that incorporate this theme.
The central motif of these fantasies is the man’s failure to obtain sexual access to a desired woman and the frustration of his sexual strategy as a consequence. This is expressed in a wide range of scenarios, from a woman’s rejection of a date offer or a sexual advance, to a man’s psychological view of himself as fundamentally unworthy of having sex with women. The denial of sexual access gives rise to a number of characters that men identify themselves with in their submissive fantasies, such as the loser, the beta male, the nice guy, the simp, the virgin, and the bestie.
The theme of denial of sexual access often overlaps with the other themes of male masochism, producing complex fantasies that must be carefully analyzed to disentangle the constituent elements that lie at the heart of sexual arousal.
To come:
Celibacy fantasies.
Bestie fantasies.
Ignore fantasies.
Tease and denial.
etc.
The painting is "The Rejected Poet", by William Powell Frith.
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